With all of those shamrocks surrounding you, let today offer some GREEN inspiration! (It's Pantone's Color of the Year, after all!)
Photography by Chuck St. John
Model: Claire Valentine with Red Models
Makeup: Lita Sheri Peer
All garments from The Lingerie Shoppe in Mountain Brook Village
The origins of lingerie trace back to 3000 BC in Egypt, but the term - derived from the French word “linge” meaning “linen” - was not frequently used until the late 1850’s. Since then, this category of clothing has taken on many forms and functions, from those perhaps not as commonly known: to protect the body, to show piety, to indicate wealth…to those more associated with the delicate garments: to shape, to sleep, to seduce. I believe one of lingerie’s most powerful aspects is its ability to evoke a secret, inner glamour within the wearer that inspires women to feel even more beautiful in their clothes or state of leisure.
* As published in B-Metro Magazine, February 2017.
Now that we’ve all finished holiday eating, drinking, and auld lang syning, it’s time to get busy working on that list of resolutions. Amid the pledges involving health and finances, how about including a few in the style category as well? Just as your doctor might suggest to cut down on carbs and your financial advisor to save for a rainy day, I consider it my duty as Birmingham’s wardrobe stylist to proffer a few resolution recommendations to keep our city chic and your life simpler!
1) Shop smart.
First off, if you’re a sucker for sales, this is your month. Contrary to popular belief that Black Friday is the best day to find deals (spoiler alert: it’s not), January is actually the choice month for bargains. That said…and hear me when I say this…resist the urge to buy merely because of the discount. Sure, that designer feathered cape used to be $750 and is now $99, but do you live the kind of life that is going to frequently require donning a feathered cape? Do you have other items in your closet that coordinate with said cape? This is where people get into trouble—they buy an item because of the deep discount, then end up having to purchase four other items to go with it, or else don’t wear it at all and there it sits, gathering dust with tags still attached. Suddenly that “great buy” wasn’t such a deal after all. Ask yourself a few questions before making a purchase: Do I already own the correct items to make this garment into a complete outfit? Do I own something very similar and, if so, do I need a duplicate or am I willing to get rid of that item and replace it with this one? Can I think of an occasion to which I would wear this item? In addition, I advise always shopping with a list of wants and needs—shopping with a purpose, if you will—rather than aimless browsing.
2) Pay attention to proportion.
As I am oft known to say, “It’s only fashion, not rocket science.” And so is this simple formula: short tops with wider leg bottoms/long tops with skinny bottoms. The goal when dressing is to flatter, so keeping proper proportion in mind is key when putting together an outfit. Skinny jeans have had a monopoly in the jeans world for the past several years, and while there is certainly nothing unstylish about them, I grew weary of the silhouette. Therefore I have been thrilled to see the return of flare-leg jeans which has opened the door to wearing a fresh crop (pun intended) of shorter tops. Many of my clients have wondered why they weren’t wearing certain tops only to realize that they just didn’t have the right bottoms to make them work. To keep your wardrobe interesting, I encourage you to not be a one-hit wonder, with only one proportion in your closet. Mix it up!
3) Visit your tailor—often.
Fit is everything. You can have on the most expensive designer garment, but if it isn’t tailored to your figure, don’t bother. By the same token, a less pricey garment can look like a million bucks if it fits like a glove. As I have said before in this column, very few of us fit “off the rack”—we’re taller, we’re shorter, we’re wider, we’re slimmer, we’re curved and concaved where the fit model was not. This is all to say: embrace alterations. I know it takes time and costs a little extra, but it is worth it! Not only will your clothing look better, but it will feel better too.
4) Upgrade your workout wear.
Goodness knows a lot of women like their active wear, so let’s make it nice, ladies! One of the benefits of exercise is improving mood, but there’s nothing inspiring about a shapeless tee and ratty gym shorts. With selections now available in premium fabrics, fun prints and every color under the sun, there is no excuse to be boring. And don’t forget the accoutrements needed for to/from the gym, like a stylish carryall, and post workout, like a jacket or wrap. Local fave resources for workout wear that kicks it up a notch include P2 Platinum Pilates at Lane Parke and Whole Foods in Mountain Brook (yes, really).
5) Upgrade your underwear.
Underwear is one of those clothing categories that becomes an afterthought for many because “no one sees it.” Well, you see it, and style begins with confidence in oneself. Underwear garments are often called “foundations” for a reason—these are where an outfit begins. Whether a lacy set that has you singing “I’m bringing sexy back,” or a high-tech shaping garment that makes clothing fit and feel sexier, let it not fall by the wayside. Your inner voice (and perhaps significant other) will thank you. Note: I know what you’re thinking…“what, no pictures?!” Stay tuned for a lingerie feature for February's Style Icon, just in time for Valentine’s. Consider yourself officially teased.
* As published in B-Metro Magazine, January 2017
As I mentioned in a previous post, come Fall, I tend to focus on my skin more than I do in other months. So by Winter I've kicked that focus into full gear. Perhaps it's because the changing weather makes my eczema flare up a bit, requiring a little extra care… Perhaps it is that I am without a tan (faux or otherwise) to camouflage imperfections…. Or perhaps it's because with the layered clothing of cooler weather, my face feels on display. So I find these months an ideal time to indulge in skin care treatments, which I am realizing should be a year-round practice AND are surprisingly affordable enough to do so.
My most recent experience was at The Esthetic Loft in Homewood. As the name suggests, the space is a cozy walk-up off the main street in Homewood that houses the studio of Licensed Esthetician Dana Benson. With over 16 years esthetics experience (including working for top dermatologists and plastic surgeons in Birmingham, Kansas City and Atlanta), Dana holds a CIDESCO Diploma, one of the highest ranking certifications in the field of esthetics. Dana also happens to be beautiful. Call me superficial but I always find it reassuring when my facialist has gorgeous skin! Dana wisely said to me something I have discovered over time: "Skin care is like dieting. You have to invest time and effort; there is no miracle cure." Therefore her boutique-style services help one do just that, with the assistance of an expert.
The facial I received was customized to my skin. After looking at my skin under the lighted magnifier (always a slightly nerve-wracking experience...what's she thinking? am I beyond help??), Dana determined that my skin was dehydrated but not dry, with some patches of unevenness. Therefore she tailored my treatment accordingly, treating my skin to deep cleansing, massage, a light glycolic peel, and warming mask, using a variety of different products, which was nice, unlike places who are required to use only one product line. That said, I did leave with a bottle of their Glycolic Mud Cleanser, which I am loving! It is a gentle pH balanced facial cleanser recommended for non-sensitive, normal to dry and dry skin, containing the exfoliative properties of glycolic acid, volcanic mud, and the blend of natural active botanical extracts.
Dana also utilized LED light therapy on my skin, for which I got to don a slightly scary looking mask. But hey, I will don just about anything for more beautiful skin! And the benefits of LED light therapy are impressive, including energizing the cells and stimulating collagen production. The result of my experience was skin that looked clear and fresh and felt tight yet soft and smooth.
In addition to skin care treatments, The Esthetic Loft also offers lash and brow services, which I plan to check out sooner than later. Lash services include a variety of extension options, for both extended and event wear. Seeing as how I covet Cara Delevingne brows, I am especially intrigued by the service called micro-embroidery (also referred to as "microblading"), during which Individual ‘hair strokes’ are carefully drawn on with vegan pigments using a feathering technique. This one-by-one stroke simulates the look of real eyebrows and is semi-permanent, lasting anywhere from 1-3 years. Yes, please!
To recap, if you are looking for an esthetician who caters to your specific skin needs and combines old-school, tried and true techniques (extractions, facial massage, peels, etc) with the latest technology (microdermabrasion, LED light therapy), Dana Benson at The Esthetic Loft is an excellent choice. To make your decision to try even easier, they are now offering membership specials to make taking care of your skin affordable.
Check out the pieces from this new floral collection by Phillip Lim 3.1 - ready to carry you from now through Spring.
Having grown weary of the monopoly that skinny jeans have held on the denim world, I was relived when an alternate style - flare - rose to the surface. That said, as a petite person I eschewed the style, remembering my experience with bootcut jeans: once hemmed, my bootcut became a straight silhouette. I figured flares would end up as bootcut once altered, so resigned myself to admire the style on others but not in my own closet. Until, that is, I observed a not-so-tall client try on a high-waisted pair and "voila," her short legs were transformed to long. lean stalks, and more exciting, the flare shape remained even after I folded under the hems to mimic the necessary tailoring. Soon after, 3 pair of high-waisted flares (in low/moderate/high price points: Just Black olive/ Paige "Bell Canyon" blue/Free People black) entered my life, opening up a myriad of new outfit combinations, since I was now able to wear my shorter tops with denim, tops that were ill-proportioned for my skinny jeans.
Full disclosure, I wear my highest wedge booties with my flares, to lengthen my legs as much as possible. At only 5 '1 ", with both a booty and hips, I prize anything that slims and lengthens! The high waist was the key to making this style work for me. If you like the look of flare jeans, I recommend you start with the higher waisted offerings. I've personally tried on the following styles, deeming each stylish, flattering and comfy. (Color options, cords and yes even white!)
Chic Tip: Wondering where the hem of your flares should fall? This style is designed to make your legs took as long as possible, thus should be left as long as possible. Take a look online at celebs and fashionistas sporting the look, and you will see that they practically sweep the ground. If you're petite like me, this means wearing your tallest heels to the alterations shop when having them measured. If you're tall, seek out styles with the longest inseam, then select your shoes accordingly. Most likely you will find that a chunkier shoe - like a substantial wedge or platform bootie, is going to best balance the dramatic proportions of the flare.
While we are used to seeing floral prints come Spring, they were a nice surprise on the Fall 2016 runways. There’s just something sexy about taking the femininity of a floral and painting it with the darker, sultrier shades that oft accompany cooler-weather fashion. I’ve always preferred my florals more mystérieuse than sweet, and this season many designers kicked minimalism to the curb by splashing these botanical prints all over dresses (which look great during cocktail hour), coats and more. The fashion adventurous are mixing their florals with other prints, like leopard (which, let’s face it, is now a classic). A blouse is a great way to add the print into your wardorbe (wear with jeans, a pencil skirt or trousers)...check out some of these options that are my favorites from around the Web.
Like a doctor who in casual conversation describes an aching arm as lateral epicondylitis as opposed to tennis elbow, we fashion industry folks like to throw around the Pantone colors like they are part of universal vernacular. So who is Pantone, and why do they get to decide the colors for the rest of the world? By their own definition, Pantone is “the world-renowned authority on color and provider of systems and technology for the selection and accurate communication of color across a variety of industries.”
1. Aurora Red
Powerful in the world of design, their seasonal hue forecasts are key for every company who designs physical products, from fashion designers and cosmetic companies to car manufacturers and graphic designers. In fact, Pantone has a hand in the color of roughly half of all garments sold in the U.S., according to NPD, a market research group.
2. Airy Blue
Pantone makes three major color announcements every year: The Color of the Year (between fall and December), Spring Fashion Report (around September), and Fall Fashion Report (around February). These color forecast announcements are purposely made well in advance so they can be used to create for the seasons in question.
3. Dusty Cedar
How do they choose color trends? An international committee of 10 operates like a secret society, meeting twice a year in Europe at the invitation of Pantone to make selections. This diverse group of people travels the world observing average people in different countries, documenting attitudes towards life and politics, street fashion, and beauty trends. Gathering in an all-white room, these anonymous individuals each present their suggestions, and with sound reasoning and picture proof, then vote on the final colors. According to Pantone, “the purpose of the colors is not just to set a trend. There is so much psychology behind colors and color theory; the reports are meant to represent the zeitgeist of the entire world.”
4. Lush Meadow
John Crocco, creative director at Perry Ellis, says that if designers choose to follow the color forecasts, they will be a “part of what ultimately becomes the trend.” But when designers overlook or flat out ignore trends as they relate to design, they will eventually become irrelevant.
This year, Pantone describes their fall palette as “…a unity of strength, confidence, and complexity. The desire for tranquility, strength, and optimism have inspired a palette that is led by the blue family. Along with anchoring earth tones, exuberant pops of vibrant colors also appear throughout the collections. Transcending gender, these unexpectedly vivacious colors in our Fall 2016 palette act as playful but structured departures from your more typical fall shades. Blue skies represent constancy as they are always above us. Grays give a feeling of stability, Red tones invite confidence and warmth, while the hot Pinkish Purples and Spicy Mustard Yellows suggest a touch of the exotic.” A perusal of Birmingham stores makes evident Pantone’s influence, as pictured this month.
6. Spicy Mustard
7. Warm Taupe
8. Potter's Clay
* As published in B-Metro Magazine, October 2016
When "The Jewelry Guy" Jerry LaSuer, Alabama's first Stella & Dot stylist, asked me to pick my Top 10 favorite pieces from the accessory line's Fall 2016 collection, I was happy to oblige, as I am a fan myself. There is something for everyone on this favorites list - the fashionista, the traveler, the classic, the hip teen, etc. See something you like for yourself or as a gift, order via this link before October 7 and a portion of sales will be donated to the Humane Society.
1) Marcell Collar Necklace
When wearing black clothing or shoes, I always like to pick up the hue in my accessories, which pulls a look together. This gold collar wrapped in genuine black leather is the perfect piece for that purpose.
2) Hammered Wire Large Hoops
A favorite of many of my clients, these earrings can offer a "little something" to complement a minimalist look, but are delicate enough to be worn with layered or statement necklaces and not compete.
3) Gilded Path Ear Climbers
Prove your coolness factor to the teen in your life by gifting the hottest trend in earrings, these ear climbers in vintage gold and black pave. Or, add fashion-forward edge to your own wardrobe!
4) Getaway Bag in Black/Cream
The ideal bag for any traveler, this tote features a zipper that extends the bag 2 inches, allowing for vacation shopping. My world-traveling mom quickly snapped one of these up for herself. a great seal of approval!
5) Park Slope Leopard Scarf
A great way to add the print of the Fall 2016 season to any outfit.
6) Genevieve Tassel Necklace
I admit I've grown a little weary of the tassel trend, but this one feels different, perhaps because of its tribal look. Wear together with the beaded necklace that comes with it, or separate.
7) Ally Double Wrap and/or Terra Wrap
Per my explanation for #1 of liking black accessories to tie a look together, either (or both) of these pieces are great if you want that touch to be on your wrist.
8) Zoe Lariat Necklace
In gold or silver, this lariat is an example of one of Stella & Dot's "wear a hundred different ways" pieces that actually works.
9) Tiburon Necklace
Perhaps the best bang for your buck of the season, this is simply just a really pretty piece. (As with all of Stella & Dot pieces, it looks even better in person.)
10) Celine Wrap Bracelet in gold
A great gold bracelet that fits any wrist size, for stacking with your watch or other bracelets.
Wardrobe wise, living in the South has its pros and cons. On the one hand, summer heat lingers longer than most would like, confusing many on what the heck to wear when it’s almost October but still pushing 90 degrees outside. On the other hand, the lack of seasonal extremes allows for a more streamlined wardrobe, as many pieces can multitask their way through various temperatures. We’re Birminghamians, not Bostonians, so there’s no need for a closet full of woolens. Expand your existing clothing collection by learning how to adapt for different weather conditions, while staying seasonally appropriate and on-trend.
The Piece: Tunic Dress
Wear NOW: The warm caramel tones and inclusion of suede in this outfit keep it visually transitional but comfortable temperature-wise. Rachel Zoe silk dress ($495), Stuart Weitzman “Sunflower” sandal in Amaretto ($455), Rebecca Minkoff clutch ($245), all from Gus Mayer. World Market necklace ($24).
Wear LATER: For core warmth, layer a Coobie tank ($22) underneath the dress, and then pop on a Adrienne Landeau fur vest ($295). Finish the grey story with a Rebecca Minkoff handbag ($345) with Linda Richards fur pouf and Stuart Weitzman “Tieland” boots in Anthracite ($798). All from Gus Mayer.
The Piece: Silk Blouse
Wear NOW: Think it’s too late to wear shorts? Not when they are in a saturated color like this cobalt and a sturdy, lined construction. Equipment silk butterfly-print blouse ($258) and Pelle Moda “Kacey” suede sandal in Lemon ($145), Gus Mayer. J.Crew Factory shorts ($54.50); Banana Republic cuff ($48); Good Works trio bracelet ($30), Mia Moda in Vestavia. Earrings are the stylist’s own.
Wear LATER: When weather turns colder, layer the blouse under a cashmere sweater. Allowing the collar, cuffs, and tail to peek out keeps the look casual and modern. Kate Moss for Equipment sweater ($278) and Franco Sarto “Yogi” boot ($138), Gus Mayer. DL 1961 “Cindy” jean in Milk ($178), SOCA Homewood. (Think you can't wear white after Labor Day? Think again. First of all, this "Milk" shade is not bright white. Second, as I mentioned in a previous article but it bears repeating, in the old days, families had coal-burning furnaces in their homes. These heating systems emitted tiny bits of soot into the air, which would make light or white clothing appear grayed and dingy. So when the furnace was turned on – which in some parts of the country was around Labor Day – those particular clothing items were moved to the back of the closet. When It was time to turn the furnace off for the season, which was around Memorial Day at the latest, that clothing could come back out to play. Therefore, unless you’re still running a coal-burning furnace, in which case I think you might have more trouble with the EPA than the Fashion Police, you’re good to go wearing white anytime of year as long as it’s temperature appropriate.)
The Piece: Printed Sleeveless Top
Wear NOW: Iris Setlakwe top ($265), Tory Burch “Gemini Link” sandal in River Rock ($350) and “Zoey” saddle bag ($495), all from Gus Mayer. BCBG “Simone” skirt ($138), Saks Fifth Avenue. Stella & Dot tassel necklace ($79); LOFT stretch bracelets ($24.50); Ring from Argent Antiques in Homewood.
Wear LATER: The sleeveless top is perfect to layer under this Iris Setlakwe unlined faux suede (feels better than the real thing!) jacket. Keep the look from leaning too business by adding a trend or two, like these from past seasons that have decided to stay awhile – torn Frame jeans ($238) and fringed Sam Edelman boots ($150). All from Gus Mayer.
Come Fall, I tend to focus on my skin more than I do in other months. Perhaps it's because the changing weather makes my eczema flare up a bit, requiring a little extra care… Perhaps it is that I am without a tan (faux or otherwise) to camouflage imperfections….Or perhaps it's because with the layered clothing of cooler weather, my face feels on display. So over the next couple of months, I am going to try out and review different skincare treatment options.
First I checked out the facial treatment available at Smart Skin Med Spa. You may know Smart Skin from their Homewood and Crestline locations, but now, conveniently for me, they have a location inside one of my favorite stores, Gus Mayer at The Summit. Tucked in the back of this luxury department store is a tranquil treatment room, equipped with the latest and greatest, cutting edge equipment skin care has to offer. Rachel, my knowledgable and lovely aesthetician, introduced me to 2 treatments that felt very high tech - colored lights and all!
The HydraFacial is a non-laser skin resurfacing procedure that utilizes super-serums filled with antioxidants, peptides and hyaluronic acid to boost hydration, help address the signs of aging and protect skin from environmental leaving it recharged, renewed, and invigorated. In a nutshell, the procedure combines cleansing, exfoliation, extraction, and hydration resulting in better-looking skin. Apparently, the Vortex-Fusion® serum delivery system is what sets the HydraFacial apart from other procedures. The multi-step treatment cleanses, evenly exfoliates and extracts to remove impurities and dead skin cells while at the same time replenishing vital nutrients including Antioxidants, Peptides and Hyaluronic Acid. Thanks to the devices’ superior delivery system, these performing ingredients are able to more effectively reduce the appearance of fine lines & wrinkles for results you can see and feel instantly. Check out some of the photo results here.
Next came the Pro-Light Therapy, which is like a disco for your face. Red, Blue, and Amber lights are used in combination to combat aging, reduce redness, irritation and rosacea as well as killing acne-causing bacteria. I don't know how it does this, it's "SCIENCE!" (in my best Thomas Dolby impression voice) The primary goal of ProLight LED Light is the stimulation of new collagen, which visibly improves the appearance of fine lines, wrinkles without damage to the overlying epidermis. Plus you feel super fly while it's happening.
Finally, we moved on to SmartSkin's other popular offering, the Signature Ultrasound Elite Facial. The entire procedure feels more ticklish than it does painful, with high-speed oscillations courtesy of ultrasound waves. First, exfoliation via light microdermabrasion is performed to remove the top layer of dirt, oil, and make-up; Second, ultrasound with LED lights and custom masque (a lifting and hydrating gel is applied to your face and neck that is much like the gel applied during sonograms) to completely empty oil ducts and shrink pores from the inside out, tighten, tone, and help with fine lines and wrinkles; and Third, an oxygen jet treatment to re-hydrate and preserve your skin for longer lasting results. My aesthetician Rachel said, "The ultrasound skin-tightening device reaches deep under the skin, penetrating underneath the facial muscles." This treatment offers results like those of much more dramatic, invasive procedures, with none of the downtime.
My consensus of the whole experience? I admit I'm a sucker for anything high-tech when it comes to my skin - if great minds can come together to combat the aging process, I want to be a part of that. So while this treatment may not have had all of the soothing smells and bells of a regular spa, my skin felt tightened and hydrated when I left, like I had done something beneficial rather than just relax for an hour. Fortunately, SmartSkin offers monthly memberships so my skin can benefit from their expertise on a regular basis.
One of the things I set out to do when beginning my career as a wardrobe stylist almost 16 years ago was to dispel the myth that a stylist was a luxury only afforded by celebrities or wealthy people. Thanks to stylist-to-the-stars Rachel Zoe, who has made a name for herself dressing A-list clients and having her own TV show, the general public now knows what the heck a wardrobe stylist is. However Zoe has not done much to promote the image of a stylist as accessible to all, as the majority of people don’t spend their lives walking red carpets. I wanted to be - and believe I have become - a “real world stylist," if you will: approachable, non-pretentious, and accomodating to clients from all walks of life. In my view, just as not everyone has a knack for decorating their home - so they call in an interior decorator, nor does everyone have a green thumb for making their yard bloom - so they employ a landscaper, so should those who lack the skills or desire to put together an appealing wardrobe be able to seek style assistance. In order to reach that audience, I have to continually banish assumptions. Here are the top 5 myths about stylists that I hear most often.
Myth 1: Stylists only buy the most expensive brands.
“I’m sure you only wear designer clothing."
Even if I made Rachel Zoe money, I wouldn’t exclusively buy designer clothing. I am brand conscious in the sense that certain ones tend to fit my shape better than others, but I would never select an item solely based on the brand. And I loathe blatant logos. Take one walk down Rodeo Drive and you will see that money doesn’t buy taste. What matters more than how much you pay for your clothing is how you outfit pieces together. As my July Style Icon, fashion industry legend Arlene Goldstein, said, “It’s all in the mix.” Like Goldstein, in my closet you will find high and low end: Topshop next to Theory, H & M next to Helmut Lang and so on. What is fun for me is to observe designer looks, whether in magazines or on runways, and then reinterpret them for my own lifestyle, figure and budget.
When clients lament that they love but cannot afford designer duds, I encourage them to use those styles as inspiration to create their own "looks for less.” That said, as I’ve aged and feel less obliged to follow every fashion trend, I make an effort to choose quality over quantity. Tommy Hilfiger hit the nail on the head when he said, "Quality always wins. If you're wearing something of incredible quality it will outshine any trend, any fashion idea, and anything that's funky or groovy."
Myth 2: Stylists have no fit issues.
“You’re small so you look good in anything.”
At 5’1", I am below the national average of 5’4”, and shy runway stature by almost a foot. I’m pretty sure that my legs are the same length as Giselle Bundchen’s torso.
Some assume that just because I am small, I can wear anything. Consider that the average fit model (the bodies upon which clothing sizes are based) is 5’7” and a size 6. If that is your size, congratulations, you are in the tiny percentage of the population who can successfully wear off the rack. The rest of us have to take proportion into consideration, and either strategically mix our pieces, invest in alterations, or both. Proper fit is absolutely key to looking polished, but it doesn’t always come easy. From my mentor Tim Gunn I have borrowed the phrase, “Make it work!” Looking great is, after all, a bit of eye trickery. The idea is to camouflage those parts of our body we’re not crazy about, and accentuate those aspects we do like about ourselves. Have killer legs? Wear more skirts and shorts. Love your collarbone? Highlight it with boatneck tops. As a “super petite,” I find I am best flattered in hem lengths above my knee, shoes with at least 2 inches of heel, pants no shorter than my ankle bone, and sleeve lengths no longer than my wrist bone; and I avoid ruffles and bows lest I resemble the 12-year-old girl whose height I mirror.
Myth 3: Stylists follow fashion rules.
“I bet you never make fashion faux-pas.”
In our current “anything goes” fashion world, what IS a fashion faux-pas these days anyway? Those who know me well know that I usually roll with the motto, “It is better to ask forgiveness than permission.” Rule following isn’t my strong suit. When advising clients, I might invoke guidelines, but I never use the word “rule.” In fact, in my typical wardrobe seminar for businesses, I have a whole segment based upon antiquated fashion rules now meant to be broken - like wearing white only between Memorial Day and Labor Day (see the addendum following this article) or avoiding color combinations like pink & red or black & navy. I’m not a proponent of limitations when it comes to creativity, especially when it comes to personal style. I must admit that when a new client tells me that according to her Color Me Beautiful chart circa 1996, she is a “Winter” and can only wear certain colors, I roll my eyes (but on the inside of course…most of the time). I’m a fan of wearing what makes you happy. Love yellow despite the fact it’s not on your color wheel? Wear it! Want to wear white in December? Go for it! Finding one’s personal style is achieved though channeling one’s authentic self, so avoid censorship.
Myth 4: Stylists never make fashion mistakes.
“I’m sure you never have buyers remorse."
Sometimes when I get undressed at the end of a day, I think, “Wow, that outfit was an epic fail. Thank goodness I never have to wear it again!” And therein lies the beauty: fashion is not permanent. If anything, it is a lifelong experiment. I give myself, and my clients, permission to constantly evolve. While I admit it is rare (thanks to years of experience), I do from time to time make fashion mistakes. And guess what? That doesn’t make me a bad person or stylist. Give yourself a break! Buying mistakes are all part of the learning process, whether you’ve stepped a bit too far out of your comfort zone with a particular garment or played it too safe and brought home something exactly like ten other things in your closet. Analyze your mistake so you can avoid making the same mistake twice, then move on. To keep your closet clutter free of such items, I recommend keeping nearby a bag for giveaways. If you put something on then take it off for whatever reason, into the bag it goes. When my bag fills up, I take it to my local charity bin. Comedienne Rita Rudner once joked, “The saleslady told me the dress looked better on. So I took it home and put it on and I wondered, ‘Looks better on what? On fire?'"
Myth 5: Stylists are judgmental of the fashion choices of others.
“I didn’t know I’d run into you today; don’t look at what I’m wearing!”
I truly hate the fact that some people feel the need to greet me with a disclaimer: “Oh my gosh I just threw this on to run errands, you must think I look awful!” Actually, Suzy Q, I was thinking how nice it is to see you. Sigh. Contrary to the belief of some, I do not have a filter through which I see everyone with black bars over their eyes. (Also, see Myth #4.) If asked to critique, I can certainly shift into that mode and do so. Otherwise, I’m “off the clock,” so to speak. In a similar vein, I don’t expect my style to be your style. A prospective client once asked me, “How do I know you aren’t going to try to make me look just like you?” To which I retorted, “My style is MY style, you can’t have it! You’ve got your own and we will find it!” Part of my job is to help people find their best selves and learn how to communicate to the world that self through his or her style choices, even if those are choices I wouldn’t make for myself.
*As published in B-Metro Magazine, August 2016.
Addendum: The Memorial Day to Labor Day Limitation on Wearing White is an Antiquated Notion
Here's why: in the old days, families had coal-burning furnaces in their homes. These heating systems emitted tiny bits of soot into the air, which would make light or white clothing appear grayed and dingy. So when the furnace was turned on - which in some parts of the country was around Labor Day - those particular clothing items were moved to the back of the closet. When It was time to turn the furnace off for the season, which was around Memorial Day at the latest, that clothing could come back out to play. Therefore, unless you're still running a coal-burning furnace, in which case I think you might have more trouble with the EPA than the Fashion Police, you're good to go wearing white anytime of year as long as it's temperature appropriate.
A wardrobe is like a garden that requires constant weeding. Don't let it get overgrown! I keep an empty bag in my closet for discards. When I put on a clothing item then take it off because I don't like the way it fits or looks, into the giveaway bag it goes. When the bag is full, I drop it off at the nearest charity bin, which in my case is the King's Home recepticle at Whole Foods Market Birmingham. #reduce #reuse #recycle
It took 15 years of my being in the fashion industry for the mainstream to finally come up with a name for the type of footwear appropriate during that sometimes warm/sometimes cold period between the end of Winter and full-on Spring. A shoe to fill the style space between boots/booties and bare sandals. While I have been using the term "transition shoe" for a few seasons now, I admit to using other less-eloquent sounding descriptors, including, but not limited to, "in-between shoe," "like a bootie but not really," "more covered-up sandal," and "high-heeled gladiator." No matter what you call them, get yourself a pair to wear with your jeans and tops and even dresses. Here are some of my picks of the season. (Note: be sure to click the arrow to see all of the columns, they like to hide.)
While I'm known for always wearing some sort of heel, most of my (less height challenged) clients prefer something more sensible. In the South, there is that span of time in between boot weather and sandal weather, otherwise known as Spring. What to wear before baring those pedicured toes? A ballet flat in a neutral nude or metallic is the most versatile, easily coordinating with the whites and colors Spring brings. When I was recently asked by a client to find online some of my favorite options in this category (that take comfort into concern and will stay on her feet), I decided to share the wealth here. Click on picture for more information on each style. (Want a transitional style with a heel? Stay tuned!)
One of the bits of advice I share with clients during consultations is about the tools and products I use to make being stylish and polished just a little easier. Here are the Top 4 Tools of the Trade:
1) Fabric shaver (Fave: Evercare's Giant Fabric Shaver, below)
Add life to your pilled sweaters with a fabric shaver. This gadget is instantly gratifying in that the attached container catches all of those nasty little fuzzballs. Most models come with a plastic guard which should be used when shaving more delicate knits like cashmere to prevent snagging. Tip: Don't think you can shave your sweater and head out the door. To get the most benefit, spend a minimum of 10 minutes running the shaver over the garment.
2) Seam ripper (Fave: Mighty Bright Lighted Seam Ripper, below)
Whether removing a price tag, label or vent stitch, avoid damaging your garment by having a seam ripper on hand. You'll end up finding a multitude of uses for this little tool. Tip: Invest just a few more dollars in a lighted, magnified version. Your eyes will thank you!
3) Wrinkle release spray (Fave: Downey Wrinkle Releaser, below)
This product actually works and has changed my life. After burning myself with an iron as a kid (ok, I was doing one of those faux stained glass craft projects, not ironing clothing), I pretty much swore off the chore. I have prepped entire photo shoots with this stuff, not to mention how great it is for travel! Simply spray the wrinkles, pull/tug taut and let dry, and voila! Wrinkles gone. Tip: Don't be afraid to saturate your garments. While I don't receommend for silk, I have had no problem using on cotton or synthetics.
4) Personal steamer (Fave: Jiffy ESTEAM Hand-Held Travel Steamer, below)
When stubborn wrinkles just won't relax with spray, the situation calls for a steamer. While I do own an industrial steamer, I find I don't want to dedicate the space required to keep it set up 24/7 nor do I have the patience for the heat-up time. Back in the days of Parisian being my biggest fashion event client, I was introduced to Jiffy Steamer’s ESTEAM, the most powerful hand-held steamer on the market (3 times more power than most others), and the only one I would ever use. This simple-to-operate steamer is ideal for use at home, in the office or on the road. With a quick heat up time of less than 2 minutes, it will steam continuously for 15 minutes per filling. Tip: This steamer also works for upholstery. It has proven invaluable for my linen slipcovered furniture.
I've said it before and I'll say it again...being healthy is STYLISH. And I don't just mean wearing your cute organic cotton dress to shop at Whole Foods. I'm talking PREVENTION, folks. And why am I talking about it? Because it is CHIC and SIMPLE to be smart about your health.
You already know October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, but did you know Brookwood Medical Center is hosting an all-day (as in 6AM to 10PM!) mammogram event on Thursday, October 22? With those hours, your excuses are really falling by the wayside (you know you were going to DVR How to Get Away with Murder anyway.) So call 205-802-6900 to get an appointment that fits into your schedule that day or evening. Parking is FREE, just bring your ticket for validation.
THE FUN STUFF
There will be entertaining and informational activities going on throughout the event (no boring waiting room here): a fashion show, cooking demonstration, holiday makeup consultations, swag bags for all, breakfast/lunch/dinner served (hello?!?), and bra fittings by Belk/Wacoal. If you think that last offering sounds funny, consider this: 80% of women wear the wrong size bra. I see evidence of this all the time when working with clients, and a proper fitting is where we begin. Belk & Wacoal are partnering with BMS on this event, donating $4 to Susan G. Komen for every woman who participates in a complimentary fitting. (No purchase necessary.) I will be at the event from 9:45-12:45 with the B-Metro Magazine Live Blogging Team. Stop by then or Tweet/Facebook message me to tell me you got your mammogram earlier or later!
THE MEDICAL STUFF
No referral is needed for a mammogram screen. Baseline mammograms are recommended at the age of 35 and annual mammogram screens are recommended annually at the age of 40. 3-D Mammograms will be offered as well. This technology helps doctors find breast cancer earlier. All patients may upgrade to a 3-D mammogram for an additional $50.
Here's the clincher that made me decide to make time for a mammogram: do you know someone special to you who has been touched by breast cancer? What's the one thing you could do in their honor that would have the most impact? Yep, so do it. Make your appointment for 10/22.
1666: Year King Charles II of England copied French king Louis XIV by demanding that men in court wear waistcoats, trousers, and ties. Alas, creating the first "dress code." This is on my mind as I head out today to give a style seminar to a group of bankers on how to spruce up theirs.
Issuing a dress code was where the similarities to the French ended, as Charles specifically wanted to get away from "French fashions," placing out of favor the big wigs and red high heels popular at the time.
Instead, court would adopt what essentially became the three-piece suit: a long waistcoat to be worn with a knee-length coat and similar-length shirt (made of English wool, not French silk). The emphasis was on cloth and cut, not ruffles and accessories. One could argue that the English suiting tradition began here – concentrating on silhouette and quality of wool rather than colour or decoration. The outfit was finished off with a sash, stockings and buckled shoes. Over time the waistcoat became shorter and shorter, until by around 1790 it reached the length we recognize today. It has been sleeveless since the 1750s.
Sometimes, after careful consideration, there are items we feel worth the investment. Sometimes we just want a quick fashion fix. The options are always there, so you decide!